There are a few ways that you can derail yourself from gracefully accepting a compliment:
- Talking too much: You do not need to discount the compliment with additional details. When someone says, "I like your purse," say thank you and smile, rather than saying, "Oh, well, it's just a knockoff, something that I got cheap from [fill in the blank]."
- Talking too little: Smile and acknowledge, versus looking at them like a deer in headlights. Are you talking to me?
- Returning a fake compliment: No need to compliment back unless you have a genuine compliment to share. Think Mean Girls, and you don't want to come off as insincere.
The root cause here is confidence, so let's address that. I don't expect anyone to gain 100% of new found confidence over night, but I do expect us to have a self-awareness and confidence that we are doing some things right. Confidence shows in everything that we do; in the way we carry ourselves in our clothes, in how convincing we are at work, and in how we attract friends. I find the best way to gain confidence is to surround myself with positive, confident people. If people are comfortable in their own skin, they are more likely to compliment you and radiate into your own confidence.
Next up? Ending the negative self-talk.